Leadership Development Plan

Leading with Emotional Intelligence

This self-assessment questionnaire is designed to get you thinking about the various competencies of emotional intelligence as they apply to you.
Daniel Goleman first brought ‘emotional intelligence’ to a wide audience with his 1995. He found that while qualities traditionally associated with leadership such as intelligence, toughness, determination and vision are required for success, they are insufficient. Truly effective leaders are also distinguished by a high degree of emotional intelligence, which includes:

Self-awareness

The ability to recognize what you are feeling, to understand your habitual emotional responses to events and to recognize how your emotions affect your behavior and performance. When you are self-aware, you see yourself as others see you, and you have a good sense of your own abilities and limitations.

Managing emotions

The ability to stay focused and think clearly even when experiencing powerful emotions. Being able to manage your own emotional state is essential for taking responsibility for your actions, and can save you from hasty decisions that you later regret.

Motivating oneself

The ability to use your deepest emotions to move and guide you towards your goals. This ability enables you to take the initiative and to persevere in the face of obstacles and setback.

Empathy

The ability to sense, understand and respond to what other people are feeling. Self-awareness is essential to having empathy with others. If you are not aware of your own emotions, you will not be able to read the emotions of others.

Social Skill

The ability to manage, influence, and inspire emotions in others. Being able to handle emotions in relationships and being able to influence and inspire others are essential foundation skills for successful teamwork and leadership.

Prior to our face-to-face session this week, please complete the following assessment.

Step #1

For the following questionnaire you will assess and score each of the statements. The assessment provides you a range from 1- 5. Score your assessment using a scale where:

1 indicates that the statement does NOT apply at all

3 indicates that the statement applies about half of the time

5 indicates that the statement ALWAYS applies to you

Step #2

Transfer your scores to the calculation table and total your results. Keep in mind that this is not a psychometric test and the answers you give are likely to vary depending on your mood when you take it.

Step #3

Consider your results and identify one or two actions you can take immediately to strengthen your emotional intelligence.

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How much does each statement apply to you

Mark your score

Read each statement and decide how strongly the statement applies to YOU. Score yourself 1 to 5 based on the following:
1 = Does NOT apply 3 = applies half the time 5 = ALWAYS applies

the number that reflects how strongly the statement applies

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I realize immediately when I lose my temper

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I can reframe bad situations quickly

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I am always able to motivate myself to do difficult tasks

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I am always able to see things from the other person’s viewpoint

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I am an excellent listener

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I know when I am happy

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I do not wear my heart on my sleeve

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I am usually able to prioritize important activities at work and complete them

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I am excellent at empathizing with someone else’s problems

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I never interrupt other peoples’ conversations

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I usually recognize when I am stressed

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Others can rarely tell what kind of mood I am in

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I always meet deadlines

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I can tell if someone is not happy with me

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I am good at adapting and mixing with a variety of people

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When I am being emotional I am aware of this

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17

I rarely fly off the handle at other people

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I never waste time

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I can tell if a team of people are not getting along with each other

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People are the most interesting thing in life for me

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When I feel anxious I usually can account for the reason(s)

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Difficult people do not annoy me

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I do not speak or act in an evasive way

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I can usually understand why people are being difficult towards me

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I love to meet new people and get to know what makes them tick

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How much does each statement apply to you

Mark your score

Read each statement and decide how strongly the statement applies to YOU. Score yourself 1 to 5 based on the following:
1 = Does NOT apply 3 = applies half the time 5 = ALWAYS applies

the number that reflects how strongly the statement applies

26

I always know when I am being unreasonable

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27

I can consciously alter my frame of mind or mood

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28

I believe you should do the difficult things first

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29

Other individuals are not difficult, just different

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30

I need a variety of work colleagues to make my job interesting

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31

Awareness of my own emotions is very important to me at all times

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32

I do not let stressful situations or people affect me once I have left work

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33

Delayed gratification is a virtue that I hold to

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34

I can understand if I am being unreasonable

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35

I like to ask questions to find out what is important to people

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36

I can tell if someone has upset or annoyed me

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37

I rarely worry about work or life in general

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38

I believe in being driven and focused to make things happen

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39

I can understand why my actions sometimes offend others

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40

I see working with difficult people as simply a challenge to win them over

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41

I can let anger go quickly so that it no longer affects me

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42

I can suppress my emotions when I need to

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43

I can always motivate myself even when I feel low

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44

I can sometimes see things from others’ point of view

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45

I am good at reconciling difference with other people

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46

I know what makes me happy

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47

Others often do not know how I am feeling about things

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48

Motivations has been the key to my success

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49

Reasons for disagreements are always clear to me

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50

I generally build solid relationships with those I work with

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Step #4

Total and interpret your results

Record your 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 scores for the questionnaire statements in the grid below. The grid organizes the statements into emotional competency lists.

Self-awareness

Managing emotions

Motivating oneself

Empathy

Social skill

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Step #5

Calculate a total for each of the five (5) emotional competencies.

Total =

(SA)

Total =

(ME)

Total =

(MO)

Total =

(EM)

Total =

(SS)

Step #6

Interpret your totals for each area of competency using the guide and record your results for each.

35-50

This area is a strength for you.

18-34

Direct focus to where you feel you need attention

10-17

Make this area a developmental priority

Strength

Needs attention

Developmental Priority

Self-awareness

Managing emotions

Motivating oneself

Empathy

Social Skill

Step #7

Reflect on your results and identify one or two actions you can take today to strengthen your emotional intelligence

Adapted from Leading Across London Emotional Intelligence questionnaire (2018)