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Online Snooping Case Study

Online Snooping Case Study
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HELEN: Dear Diary– Oh, I can’t believe I just wrote that. It’s been years since I
kept a diary and I never thought I’d pick up the habit again. But a friend recently
reminded me how much writing about your problems can help you sort them out,
so, here I am.

Jim and I recently plunged headfirst into our forties, and every day we’re amazed
to look around the house to realize that our daughters are already 10, 12, and 14.
Seriously, where has the time gone? Things have been good, though. Jim
recently got another promotion, business is strong at the shop, and all the girls
are doing well in school. In fact, up until a few weeks ago, I would have been
hard pressed to come up with a complaint. One was bound to come eventually,
though. Juliet, our 14-year-old, has officially become sexually active.

It all started innocently enough about six months ago, when she told us she had
a boyfriend. His name is Scott. He’s 15, and very polite. And he’s always lived in
the neighborhood, so we knew him fairly well and expected nothing but an
innocent first relationship. I remember my seventh grade boyfriend. We held
hands for the first time and I panicked, thinking my father would catch me. I
guess I just assumed it would be the same for Juliet.

When she first told us about Scott, we set very strict rules for when and how they
could spend time together. An adult must be present if they were alone in either
our or Scott’s house, only group dates would be allowed, and she must always
be home by 9:00 PM. We naively thought that this would eliminate any chance
for sexual activity, and thought we had done our jobs as parents well.

In the last month or so, though, Jim and I both noticed Juliet becoming more and
more secretive about her plans and activities. She started rushing out after
school and on weekends with little more explanation than, “See you later.” We’d
ask her about it later and almost always just got the typical teenage response of,
“Nothing, or, just hanging out.” Jim said we owed her the benefit of the doubt, but
something inside me was screaming that something was wrong. And that brings
us to last week.

Juliet’s sneakiness continued to grow, and it finally just broke my ability to trust. I
went into her bedroom after she left one day and just started looking around. I
don’t really know what I was looking for, maybe drugs, maybe alcohol, birth
control, condoms. I came up empty-handed from my search, and was about to
leave her room when I noticed that her online profile was on the computer–
unlocked. I had always vowed to never undermine the girls’ privacy and spy on
them, but it was calling me to do so.

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Against my better judgment, I sat down at her desk and clicked over to her
messages. Just as with any teenage girl, it was full of messages between friends
and, of course, puppy love notes from Scott. Most of it was typical junior high
gossip, but then, I found it. In one simple message, Juliet confessed to her best
friend that she and Scott were having sex.

I had always been concerned about the reliability of Scott’s parents to keep a
proper eye on what the kids were doing, and sure enough, their seeming
emotional distance and lack of rules left the door wide open for Juliet and Scott. It
was apparently as simple as the two of them locking the basement door and
having sex right there under his parents’ noses. I read more of the messages and
figured out the first encounter happened about a month and a half prior, with at
least four other incidents happening in the weeks that followed. I couldn’t tell if
she was enjoying it, or if they were even using contraceptives, but I was furious.

I told Jim what I found immediately after he got home that day expecting full
agreement and support, but instead, he criticized me for snooping. We both
obviously think that something has to be done to curb this sexual activity, but we
haven’t been able to agree on any course of action.

It’s been a rough and uncomfortable week with no clear road forward, so we
finally both agreed to see a counselor and hope that professional advice lights
the way a little bit. Our appointment is tomorrow, and I’m incredibly nervous
about it. Am I a bad mother for snooping? Or is it justified out of concern for my
daughter’s mental and physical health?

I’m going to try to get some sleep now, but with this on my mind and two other
girls about to enter their teenage years, too, I’m not sure if sleep will come until
the youngest one is married. Will update tomorrow. Helen.

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